New Year, Continued Commitment

Every January 1, we make resolutions of the things they are going to do better this year.

We commit to doing something different that will improve our lives (at least we think it will).

I love life, and all the little sticky situations we tend to get ourselves into that force us to do better.... next year.

For the past 2 years I have not made any new commitments.  I have found that I actually do better with the things I want to accomplish by not focusing on something just because it is a new year.

My commitments over the past few year were put in a very simple way for me as I was reading the newest Church News.

"Trust is essential part of family relationships"  by Todd Olson

I was fixed on the following:

'Adults, just like children, have an innate desire to connect emotionally with another human being.  Our brains are wired for attachment.  The result of a secure attachment is "trust".  Our attachment needs can be described by the following questions.'

• Will you be there for me when I need you the most?
• Will you stay close to me?
• Will you value me and accept me even with my imperfections?
• Do I matter to you?
• Am I a priority in your life?
• Do you need me?
• Are you aware of my presence?
• Will you hear me and respect what I am saying?
• Will you help me feel safe by caring about my feelings, hurts, and needs?

Wow.  My goal is to continue to strive to help others feel good about talking with me.  That they can trust me. 

Trust starts with us.  We have to be willing to let go, and not hold a grudge.  We have to be willing to get hurt and allow ourselves to be vulnerable.  Only by being vulnerable can we truly build a relationship with someone.  

If you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you will be grateful and you will experience relationships like you have never known.